Ryan's parents, sister and boyfriend, brother his wife and daughter, and my grandparents a 2 cousins are going to be camping with us this weekend. (July 2-5) Do we tell them? Everyone dear to us will be there. (I am way closer to my grandparents than my mom unfortunately, so I wouldn't feel bad if she isn't there.)
With our first pregnancy, we told everyone the day after we tested. With our second pregnancy, we didn't tell anyone until we miscarried. I think some felt a little left out. But I keep thinking: is it too early, what if something happens again, would we want to put them through that with us.
I am torn! What do you think?
4 comments:
This is a personal choice... but..if your hcg is doubling... ;)and your whole family (minus one person) is there...
I would do it. What a great opportunity! If we had been preggers at Christmas we were going to give our mom's a present about being a grandma...even tho I would have only been 4wks.
Plus there are alot of cool ways you can tell them. You can do a skit! Charades! Telephone? Sing a song around the campfire about it? Say it in a prayer... the corny but cute big brother tshirt for ethan... etc.
If something does go wrong you have more support... if they are Christians you get more prayer :)
Another thing is...sharing allows you to experience the joy of being pregnant more and allows your family members to enjoy it too. If something does go wrong that don't just experience the sorrow..but no more of this sorrow talk.
TODAY you ARE pregnant!!!!!!!!
This is a personal choice tho and I'll still appreciate you regardless of your decision to share. I feel bless you shared it with me :)
I wasn't going to add my comment, since you already know my thoughts, but I want to agree with Trujess!
Do it however you want and when you want... but I do think there is advantage to telling everyone early...
I totally know how you feel with being torn, though. There are pros and cons to both. I hate to say this, but I am sure your family will not suffer as much pain as you do with a miscarraige. I noticed that with mine. I felt like I was the only one. I really don't think it affected everyone that much. Sure, they were sad, but it didn't go much beyond that. That's my opinion, though. Maybe they hid their feelings from me to spear me more pain.
Your family is there for you. They deserve to know, especially if you are close to them! But, if you don't want to tell them, then they'll just have to get over it. I deal with that, too.
You'll figure it out! All I can say, is that if your bloodwork comes back good - how in the world can you keep from blurting it out every chance you get this weekend?
Don't hold yourself back while you are with your close family! I think you could regret that...
Good luck with your decision! It's a tough one!
I told more people with this pregnancy than with the second one. I told everyone at work after the ultrasound and told extended family and people in our church after the 12 week appointment and we heard the heartbeat. I wanted to protect me, because it's harder to un-tell people that you aren't super close to. My immediate family knew after the ultrasound.
I think you'll know if you should tell them or not. I have a good feeling about this one :)
Good luck! It's not an easy decision!
Eeek!! I'm still SO excited for you!!!
We were just in the same boat, but had decided that if something bad happens like last time and we lose the baby, we wouldn't keep that a secret, so we may as well share the good news and hopeful times as well! there's also something to be said for people thinking good thoughts about your pregnancy. with our son, we were very thankful that people knew of his existence rather than just his death because he was so real to us and we weren't about to deny his being. having other people who "knew" him too comforts me. anyway, you'll figure out what's right for you. congrats!
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